having peace in your life and getting out of a rut

Waking up everyday miserable and feeling depressed is such a common problem. We dread going to work and hate our jobs and life. We constantly feel that we are living someone else’s dream and feel such regret that we are not doing what we thought we would do when we were young.

Being stuck in a rut is not fun at all. Everyday feels the same. Your mood is out of control, angry and sad at the same time. Something needs to change! And fast!

Why do we getting out of a rut?

There are many reasons we get stuck in a rut. The number one reason is actually fear and believing we are inferior. We are scared to live the live we deserve. Personally I was stuck in a rut for 12 years. My life seemed to be paused for 12 long years and nothing changed. I knew what I wanted to do, but I was just too shy and scared. I hated the feeling of getting more and more behind in life. Everyone is getting married, getting rich and gaining more friends. They seem happy while I was dying on the inside. I have never had a girlfriend and I was still living with my parents. I really felt like a complete failure. The worst was this was in my prime years from the age of 16 to 26. No money, no girl, no life.

By the time I turned 26 these feelings I had was getting so bad that I started thinking horrible things. I will die alone. Why can’t I just get up and live my own life? What’s wrong with me? Why are my friends so blind? Why don’t they help me?

I started searching internet heavily trying to find out if anyone else was going through this. I found many people with the same problem. This actually made my situation worse because I just read about more people suffering and felt like there was no hope. Then I stumbled across one article that stood out to me. It said to stop waiting for someone to rescue you; you need to rescue yourself because you have everything within you to do it.

The steps you need to getting out of a rut

After many more research I found a way to get out of the rut. Once I realized that I could make my own future become a reality, in a matter of days I felt really great. It’s almost like being born again and everything looks more colourful and hopeful.

1 - Change yourself from within

The very first step is that you need to realize that it’s up to you to make your own happiness. You need to stop looking for external support. You will wait forever and forever if you think that someone will come and save you. You are where you are in your life because of your actions alone.

You need to start looking inside of yourself. You have everything within you to change your life. You need to start listening to yourself and find out what you really want out of life and not what other people told you to do. Parents can be wonderful but they can also kill your soul when they force you into jobs you hate and the life you do not want. You know yourself best and only you know what would really make you happy.

2 - Find your purpose

When you do not know what your purpose in life is, it is like sailing through life blindly. Why does it matter what you do and why would you do it? Once you find your purpose you will have such motivation to achieve your goals that nothing will stop you. However it’s not always easy to find your true purpose. Just know that your purpose is inside you. In time it will come out and reveal itself.

Sometimes our purpose is buried so deep within ourselves because we suppressed it. It will take some time for it to come out. In the mean time, do what you know and feel that you want to do. Whether it is to buy a house, get a car or find a friend.

3 - Set goals

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